No relationship is absolutely perfect 100 percent of the time. But you can usually tell pretty quickly when a relationship definitely isn’t going to stand the test of time.There are major red flags that the people of Reddit have noticed in their own, their friends’, and their families’ relationships.
These are tell-tale signs that two people were just not made for each other. Some are pretty obviousSome, less so. We all deserve to be happy. If you or your friend is experiencing any of these bad relationship signals, maybe it’s time to make a change.
A little arguing back and forth is normal, but when you can hear these idiots screaming their heads off at each other every single goddamn day of their lives, they need to just quit it. –Mistah-Jay
The four horsemen
There is actually research by John Gottman in this area. He calls them the four horsemen.The traits are contempt, criticism, stonewalling and defensiveness. His research has shown that within just a few minutes of watching a couple, he can determine if their relationship is likely to end in divorce based on if any of these are present.https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-four-horsemen-recognizing-criticism-contempt-defensiveness-and-stonewalling/The good news is, they all have antidotes.
They dislike each other
The only one for me is: when they don’t like each other.Literally, everything else I’ve seen couples successfully bypass – extreme differences in personalities, in interests, in politics, in sex drives, in religions, all fine – as long as they like each other and want to be around each other.If you’re dreading going home at the end of the day because your spouse is there, that’s the only time I think “Why are you even together, then?” –molly__pop.
I saw one just the other day at a restaurant. He would be talking, and she would be listening and responding.When she was talking, he would pick up his phone and stare at it the whole time.That relationship isn’t going to last. –sstairThe next one is totally key.Never go on Twitter! For your relationship advice or, really, for anything.